Online Gathering Sunday
Eleven Tips for Responding to Children’s Fears and Concerns Following a Disaster
- Parents, teachers and caregivers are the key to helping children work through their feelings following a disaster.
- Pray with children for the victims of the disaster. Simple prayers, like: Dear God, help and bless the people who lived through the storm. Guard them all with your care. Amen.
- Discuss openly with children what your family and church are doing to help those who have been hurt by the disaster.
- Limit trauma by protecting children from ongoing media images of the disaster that may only contribute to fear and helplessness. Limit exposure to continuing news stories and hold adult conversations only when children are not present.
- Reassure children as you listen to their fears. Children experience the same feelings as adults, so it is important and reasonable to validate their feelings while keeping a positive future orientation.
- Contact organizations in your area that address the needs of children.
- Provide structure through routine and activity. Routines and activities help regain a sense of control when all else feels out of control.
- Make objects that encourage play reenactment of the images children observe during and after a disaster.
- Let children draw pictures or journal about the disaster. Ask children to draw or write whatever comes to their minds, or give them a question or topic to draw about. Create a group mural or collage that illustrates the images children have seen. Follow up with a discussion with a parent or small group.
- Group discussions are helpful for validating children’s feelings about the images they see or the conversations they hear about the disaster. Most importantly, end the discussion on a positive note by assuring children of God’s love. Scripture, like “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” from Psalm 46 is one example of scripture that can bring children comfort.
- Develop a family disaster plan for the types of natural disasters that may happen in your area. Role-play some possible situations. Knowing that you are prepared will help children cope with fears that they may find themselves separated from family in the event of a disaster.
- Do good. Doing good for others help children overcome the sense of powerlessness. For example, let children help purchase and assemble health kits, layettes or flood buckets. See UMCOR.org for information on how to assemble kits.
“No Matter What Happens We Are Together”
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change, though the mountains shake in the heart of the sea; though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble with its tumult.” Psalm 46:1-3
It is written that people often define their lives by some major event or experience. This is especially true for a life-shaping disaster. I know that you’ll agree that this is happening to us—and the rest of the world, with the onslaught of the coronavirus.
It seems almost impossible that this is happening, and certainly in my lifetime I’ve never seen anything like it. It reminds us of 9/11, and some of us have experienced other disasters. Yet, COVID-19 seems different in so many ways.
I was in a conference call today via an online application called Zoom with other COPA (Communities Organized for Relational Power in Action,) leaders led by our very own Mayra Bernabe, to talk about what is happening in our local institutions. We shared how people are panicking, hoarding food and supplies, and basically freaking out as they shelter in place. Now that all the schools are closed, parents are trying their best to maintain order in the home, and lack of childcare is an issue. Some who are financially secure feel like they will get by okay, but others, especially families in poverty with little financial reserves, face inescapable suffering ahead. Plus, we know the virus causes many deaths. We’re not at the end of this crisis.
Sheltering in place is absolutely the right thing for us to be doing now as we attempt to “flatten the curve,” and lessen the impact of the disease on the population. But I’ll be honest; it feels totally weird. Sure, some industries are exempt, and for good reason, including food production, emergency responders, hospitals, etc., but the rest of us must now physically and socially distant ourselves from everyone—six feet minimum!—unless it’s a close family member. And that’s hard.
Besides fear, we can feel lonely, isolated, and overwhelmed. When we listen to the news, we feel bombarded by conflicting reports and panic.
What’s a believer to do? We must turn to God. We must turn to God. As the Scripture says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” There aren’t many guarantees in life, but “what is guaranteed is that when we trust in God, God will be with us. God never meant for us to be alone, ever. God is with us in the worst and in the best of times. Even in death, God promises to meet us on the other side.”
I pray we reorder our priorities, take stock, and prepare to live as Christ taught us in this new world. Won’t you join me?
Shalom,
Pastora Robin